Join long time collaborators and trouble makers Jaime Grant and Dean Spade as we bust the myth of romance as the brass ring of our relationship constellations. Dean shares three points on his desire map: a deep yearning for collective self-determination; a strong desire to heal from shame; and a growing inclination to surrender to the will of the group. In this episode we discuss the impossibility of the romance myth and its isolating impacts on us; finally, we reimagine romance and consider how our desires can grow our movements and our community beyond romantic coupledom.